Dr Rhonda Fine believes that Co-Dependency is an emerging issue. She has extensive experience and success working with the issues Co-Dependency. One of her core beliefs is that it will be difficult to stop being tormented by other's behaviors unless one takes responsibility for themselves. Sometimes, Co-Dependency can be defined as a normal reaction to other's abnormal behavior
It is normal to want to protect the people we care about and to be affected by and react to the problems of others. However a Co-dependent person is one who has let another person's behavior affect them and who is obsessed with controlling that person's behavior. Co-dependents constantly give to others and don't know how to receive. This becomes a very destructive cycle for the person and prevents them from finding their own peace and happiness. Co-dependent people often are so involved in the drama of someone else's life, they have lost site of their own. They can become angry, exhausted and empty. They often find themselves in the backdrop of another's problems.
Goals of treatment may include:
Getting the help to move forward is often the most difficult. Once the "dance of Co-Dependency" is acknowledged, moving forward becomes a natural process.